An entry from Regina’s personal journal, written from Inner Wisdom on March 17, 2006.
The Reality of Relationships, part I:
Special relationships are those relationships that you have invited into your life through mutual attraction. They may seem to be highly conflicted mixed with love and happiness or they may seem to be purely highly conflicted. Either way, they are not what they seem to be. Either way, they are relationships of spiritual mutual attraction, which makes them especially useful to you.
When “two souls” come together through spiritual mutual attraction, it is because they recognize that they are one. Within the dream and from the ego’s point of view, they come together to help each other forget this fact.
“Two souls” are working together in Love to help each other forget that their purpose is the same. They play the game of forgetting by seeming to have separate wills, when they share a purpose to forget they are one. This is a shared purpose of delusion, but the purpose is shared. Thus, the Son of God cannot and does not have separate wills.
From the Holy Spirit’s perspective, the same thing is happening. “Two souls” as projected aspects of one mind are being used to express free will. Joined in purpose, each gives the other the experience he seeks. Everything is perfect as asked.
Where the ego’s perception and the Holy Spirit’s perception differ is in the interpretation of the reality of the game. To the ego, the oneness is forgotten and the reality is the separateness that is expressed. To the Holy Spirit, the expression is only that, and the reality is the power that expresses it.
Within your experience, an experience of conflict is the clashing of two wills. But in reality it is an agreement within one mind to practice what isn’t real.
Healing is a decision within the mind to reverse the game that is played. Instead of using imagined conflict to play a game of unreality, the perspective of healing uses “conflict” to remember the game isn’t real.
“Two souls” seem separate only within illusion, so that the illusion of separation may be played. When “one soul” recognizes illusion as illusion, the memory of Truth is shared. Illusion cannot stand in the Light of Truth.
From your perspective within the world, separation seems very real. Conflict seems frightening. But the mind is capable of remembering the Truth by choosing not to believe the false.
When your brothers seem to enter into conflict with you, remember that conflict is an agreed-to game to teach what isn’t true. Look at your brother and accept that he is you teaching that he is not. Let yourself feel grateful for the Truth beyond illusion. In gratitude, the illusion disappears.
As you are healed, so is your brother. Bless you for your willingness to look beyond the game. Whenever there seems to be conflict, it is because you are choosing to teach what isn’t true. Remembering the Truth eradicates conflict, as conflict isn’t possible in Truth.
The Reality of Relationships, part II:
Question from RDA: Holy Spirit, thank you for showing me the reality of relationships. I want to use these relationships that were formed for separation as a path for healing. How can I do that?
Inner Wisdom: Every relationship is a reflection of the mind. It is not a reflection of the individual mind, because the individual mind is illusion. It is a reflection of the unhealed ego mind. Every relationship within the world comes together as a reflection of the beliefs and pain that are in the mind. The relationships come together with the purpose of that mind, and they are a perfect reflection of its purpose.
To use the relationships that are made with the purpose of reinforcing separation . . . to use these relationships for healing, you must be willing to reverse the purpose that was given. You must be willing not to play the game you have agreed to play. You must be willing not to reinforce separation by believing in the conflict of wills.
When a brother comes to you and a “conflict” ensues, you must be willing to look in your mind. Do not look at form. It is playing out the agreement. The healing will occur in the mind.
Watch the conflict as it seems to play out. Do not expect it to change. Do not expect that your willingness to heal will result in the disappearance of conflict [in form]. But look at the conflict and accept it for what it is. It is a reflection of the purpose in the mind. Then decide right then, as you look right at it, that you choose a reversal of purpose. Instead of separation, you choose Truth. Hold that thought in your mind. Then as the conflict seems to continue, let it go right then as unreal. Everything you see, every thought you think, every desired reaction. Notice them, remember all that I’ve said, and let them wash away as unreal.
Remember Jesus as he stood before his accusers at the Sanhedrin. The accusers did not change their way. The experience was not seen as peaceful [in form]. But Jesus was at peace and Jesus was in Love, because Jesus knew in his mind that all that he saw and all he experienced was not Truth. It was unreal.
When you believe the conflict, you participate in it through thought. Watch your thoughts and do not participate out of faith that it isn’t real. This is how you use conflict to heal the mind. You let go of what isn’t, and accept what is. This is true forgiveness.
The Reality of Relationships, part III:
Question from RDA: I feel we are to continue our discussion on relationships. Tell me, if the “conflict” continues within the illusion of form, how is it that my brother is also healed as I let go of my belief in the experience?
Inner Wisdom: This is where it becomes important for you to separate illusion from reality within the mind. If you look at a brother and a situation of conflict and ask, “Why isn’t he being healed too,” you believe the illusion. You are expecting form to change. This expectation is the expectation of bringing truth to illusion. You need to bring illusion to truth.
You are not healed through a peaceful, easy life that denies the ego. You are healed by facing the ego and denying it. You deny it while it is rearing its ugly head. You look right at the imagined monster and say, “I know you are not real, and so I will not react to you as if you are.”
As long as the Son of God is unhealed, the ego will show itself in the world. But this is perfect for healing, because you can learn who you are by recognizing the ego’s inability to harm your Truth. As you learn this lesson, it is transmitted into the mind that you share. Every aspect of the mind at some level becomes aware that the ego is not real. Every aspect must accept the message with you, because every aspect is you. But until the message is accepted fully, the ego will still show up in the world.
Question from RDA: Please talk to me about Holy Relationships.
Inner Wisdom: All relationships are holy in the eyes of the Holy Spirit, because all relationships have the purpose of healing. All relationships become holy to you when you decide to share the Holy Spirit’s purpose. Some will continue to seem conflicted; these relationships are used to deny the reality of the ego. And some Holy Relationships will seem helpful; these are a means of hearing the Holy Spirit’s messages for you. But all relationships serve the same purpose. The only question is which purpose are you listening to?
Question from RDA: If love is giving my brother as he has asked, how am I loving him by giving peace when he seeks separation?
Inner Wisdom: Your brother will see what he asks to see until he decides to see differently. If he chooses separation, he will experience separation as he chooses. But you must also remember that your brother shares a mind with you, and this mind [now chooses] healing. So when you give your brother healing, you are giving him what he really wants. When he is ready to see it, he will.
You cannot violate your brother’s free will. Every action you take is an action of Love, as every action is based on shared purpose. Through the decision of one mind, that shared purpose is being reversed. In joining the reversal, you are joining with the purpose of now and extending Love as it is requested.
